Tuesday, June 30, 2009
One of the few things I have left to do is cook up a wedding day timeline which involves finalizing times with the vendors. As I've gotten responses I've been transferring them into a word document to look at later. I decided I'd tackle it on my lunch break today.
I just realized that there are five hours scheduled for hair and makeup. This, for the girl that usually puts her hair in a pony tail and doesn't wear makeup.
It's moments like this when I wonder what the hell I was thinking.
Monday, June 29, 2009
A few months back at one of Perona’s bridal shows, I had chatted up the lady that makes the cakes that are part of the wedding package. She was really nice and really made it sound like they could do whatever I wanted. When it came time to pick a cake, however, we were handed a book and asked to pick. The pictures were less than awesome, and I left the meeting only feeling so-so about our choice. It would have been a nice cake, it just wasn’t what I was dreaming up.
So, I decided to make some calls and see what I could do. I called the bakery and talked with the woman from the bridal show again and ended up emailing her a picture of a cake I liked. She got back to me shortly saying they could do it, no problem. I then emailed our coordinator at Perona and had the request changed at their end. When I called yesterday to give the final headcount I was told I would officially get that cake, and at no extra charge!
I’m really excited about the cake, and really glad I didn’t settle.
Friday, June 26, 2009
My husband to be rocks because he’s my stress relief. It’s days like today that make me realize it, and appreciate it so much more.
Today is my birthday. Our plans for the evening involve ordering dinner in and then doing nothing. I’ve been looking forward to it for a week and a half now. All I wanted this year was a nice, mellow birthday.
Wedding planning has gotten a little nutty. I’m no longer in breakdown mode. I can field calls without wanting to cry and I’m excited about the day again. But it’s still pretty stressful. Work’s been a little nutty too. I’m sure a lot of it is pressure I put on myself to get things done before I leave for the honeymoon… but the stress is still there. I was really looking forward to just bumming tonight.
Of course, life has other plans. I got a certified letter today letting me know I’m subpoenaed to appear in court Tuesday morning. I can’t tell you how much this shot my stress level up. Its like, is this some cruel joke? Don’t you people realize I have enough on my plate?
So, I call Mark. It still amazes me how much I can mellow out by just hearing his voice. Just a few minutes of chatting and I’m back to sanity. I love knowing that he’ll get home and give me a hug and it’ll feel so much better.
Thursday, June 25, 2009
Tuesday, June 23, 2009
Still, the media hype and the lack of anything else on led us to turn it on.
To watch it was simply heartbreaking. I can’t imagine having to sit there in front of a camera and try to explain to the world how and why your relationship is ending.
I guess it’s because I’m three weeks from the wedding, but to me it’s completely unfathomable that you could love someone so much, and let your relationship turn into that. That you could sit there and say to the camera that you’ll always love the other one, but that divorce is still your best option.
Mark and I are getting married on our five-year dating anniversary. We made the decision pretty early on in our relationship that we’d get married someday. There’s been a lot of stress in the last five years – funerals, graduations, new jobs and moves. We’ve been furious, disappointed and hurt – both by each other and by the cards life has dealt us. Not once, though, has either ever threatened to walk away from the relationship. It’s just not an option. We’re in this for the long haul.
It makes me wonder what Jon and Kate were like when they got married. Did they talk to each other nicer? Did they make plans to have date nights and weekends away after they have kids? Did they figure out the finances to make sure they could pay for college? Did they sit around and have conversations about going to counseling if things ever got bad?
I feel like so much of our future has taken shape over the last year. We’ve always talked about getting married and having kids, but they were always more of an abstract. Now, there’s a time table for kids. A plan on when and where to look at houses. Plans for gardens and vacations and how we want our kids raised. Of course, the plans are fluid and depend a lot on everything else going on in the world, but right now I can’t imagine them changing drastically. At the core of everything are the same values and wants that we’ve been talking about for years.
I wonder if Jon and Kate were the same. If there were carefully thought out plans that got derailed. If all the good intentions in the world couldn’t have prevented what happened. I can’t imagine Mark and I ever sitting in that position. Then again, I’m sure Jon and Kate didn’t think it was possible three weeks before their wedding either.
I know we don’t see everything on TV, and I’m leery to believe what the tabloids say, despite my love for Men in Black. I just can’t help but feel that they didn’t try hard enough or fight long enough to make things right. Where was the counseling? The spending time working on the marriage? If it was there, we certainly didn’t see it. And in a way, I feel like that’s what separates us from them. This love would never be lost without a fight. From both of us.
Friday, June 19, 2009
Just about two weeks ago, I had a meltdown of epic proportions.
Throughout the whole wedding planning process, I had been pretty level-headed. I'd cried exactly once - over venue sticker-shock... twice if you count getting teary over listening to father-daughter dance songs with my Dad. Everyone kept telling me how great I was doing - it was a running joke at the gym that I must be the only not-stressed bride in the world.
And then everything I didn't know I was stressing about boiled over. There were several days of barely eating, lots of crying and not much sleeping. I'm sure it was enough to convince most men to cancel the wedding - but Mark isn't most men. I don't know what I'd do without him.
Throughtout the meltdown he called several times a day to tell me he loves me and that he can't wait to be my husband. He sat up with me at night when I couldn't sleep and told me repeatedly that if it was too stressful we could push the wedding back. He also told me that he would take over anything else that needs to be done planning-wise.
I feel so blessed that he is as patient and understanding as he is.
And for the record - yes, he is now doing most of the planning. He's been calling vendors to coordinate times and details. He's been filling out DJ forms, venue instruction sheets and the forms so we can get our marriage license (he set up that appointment too). He's spent evenings tweaking the excel spreadsheets of guest names - making sure the table arrangements all work and all of the guests' names are spelled correctly. All this while I sit around watching "I'm a Celebrity... Get Me Out of Here!" and take a much needed break. He hasn't complained once.
I'm one lucky girl.
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Thursday, June 18, 2009
I was super excited to find a large envelope from California waiting for me the other day. Inside was a “wedding gift” from Mickey and Minnie Mouse (we had sent them a wedding invitation) - a signed picture of them in front of Sleeping Beauty castle, and a button that says “Just Married”.
We’re going to frame the picture and put it on the guestbook table along with family wedding pictures.
Now, let’s hope the President and the Pope get back to us too!
Wednesday, June 17, 2009
Tuesday, June 16, 2009
I had picked up the baskets months ago at Walmart on clearance, but hesitated to stock them full because of budget concerns. Around the same time, I started reading coupon blogs and seriously paying attention to the ads. These really turned into a labor of love. The entire project - including the baskets - cost only $20.
I'll post the list of contents below if anyone else needs it for inspiration.
Men's Room Basket
Women's Room Basket
Mark and I spent the better part of two evenings printing the tags, getting them cut out, cutting up the ribbons and tying them on. I love the way they came out!
Monday, June 15, 2009
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